When it comes to relationships, some have had the unfortunate but eye-opening experience of being in an extremely toxic one. Most likely, our first experience was enough to be our last, if we were lucky enough to learn from our mistakes and never get involved in one of those types again.
Hmmm!some are even rather carried away with the fact that the love is still there and decides to remain even if the relationship has gone bitter.Culture wise some will remain to avoid insults from their family and parents especially, "do you want madukas wife to mock me,she will say that I didn't train you properly, even your children, hen! they will no longer have a name oh,that is an insult to the family", these are the words from a bereaved mother as usual in an igbotic tone ,when she sees her daughter come back home because of a melting marriage experience.The bitter end of the story is that their daughter is forcefully returned to them as a corpse- dead,which is already too late for amendment it is rather frustrating to mention, choosing victims in Lagos alone.
Domestic violence is hands down the no 1 choice in 10 of 15 counties, why most women would leave their homes.After research across the globe,the numbers shows that men and women are more forgiven of their partners personal problems- not one country offered up jobloss or substantial weight gain as the main reason to call it a quit.Weight gain and job loss can be worked on- or changed, but physical abuse is never played with.
More in Africa, many leave due to infidelity, though it can also be worked on but the love and trust of old will be lost therefore producing an unhealthy marriage.To me everything can be worked on ,be it abuse ,infidelity, weight increase etc,nothing should make a woman or man separate, because know it or not it will unconsciously affect the children ;always in the receiving end.
So what would make you leave your marriage or relationship as it were?
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