Recently there has been a trending story about of a man who just found out that he son of 32yrs was not his,biologically.The question is why did the woman keep this truth for 32 yes or even more?.
The whole truth is that what you call a secret cannot be kept for so long ,you may spill it or not but sure you will or another person will.
Many mothers/women today are guilty of this mistake; yes I call it a mistake because these women think they are protecting the future, their marriage, their pride and their children-no you are doing a lot more harm to your self,to the kids.
No one is judging you for having kids before marriage, no one is blaming anyone, but my stand is that the second party should know before he gets more involved with you.Maybe two weeks into the 'relationship',you tell him "dear I had two kids when I was younger or before I met you". Let him know, if he can put up with that he should take a bow,he doesn't deserve you,simple!.
Many African women are scared to speak-especially a Nigerian woman, she is scared because she may never marry in her life time if she says the 'abominable act' as our parents will call it.You can work hard train your kids on your own and be happy if no one sees you attractive enough to marry.
I know more than 2 women who are now married and are victims of lies in their home,their husbands are in the dark and they smile everyday but the 10 ,000 smiles you will have while married is worse than the 2000 cry when you marriage eventually crashes due to the lies you have lived with for years.Be wise
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